Top 10 Openers To Use on Dating Apps in 2022 / 2023

1. I’ve been watching your dog and I think s/he’s trying to tell you something
Everyone loves dogs. Don’t they? If your cute match has a doggo on their profile, it's a good bet they’ll respond to this opener. It contains a natural curiosity loop (“what is my dog trying to tell me?”) and is the perfect setup for a punchline (“S/he’s saying you need to take me on a date :)”)
No dog on the profile… just a cat? No worries, we got you covered there too...
2. Your cat is so cute that I'm going to stop talking about my dog now
Cat people (predictably) love their cats. Keys has an entire category of Cat (and Dog) related openers, but this is one of the best. It immediately sets up a cats-vs-dogs discussion (argument) with plenty of opportunities for gentle ribbing, teasing and even some innuendo.
Don’t have a dog? No problem. Just try “Your cat looks like it just came back from having dinner with the devil”.


3. My friends keep telling me there’s someone I should get to know on this app. They might be right about you
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, this line works a treat. It conveys simultaneously that your friends support you in finding a great date (mate), that you listen to your friends, and that you see real potential in your cute matches’ profile. Send with confidence 👊🏼😎
4. I’m not sure if you’re flirting with me, but you’re flirting with me.
This message commonly makes matches do a double take. Did I read that right? Yes, yes you did. It’s a way to break up the boring patterns we’re all used to answering on dating apps, and as an accusation, it demands an answer.


5. You look like the perfect package that keeps getting delivered to the wrong address
How would we flirt without the power of Analogies? The power in this line is its reference to the proverbial “total package” of dating, as well as another … more salacious …innuendo. It also hooks into the reality that everyone on dating apps feels they are “the total package” that keeps kissing frogs, rather than princes. Use with caution: your match might just ask you for YOUR address 😂
6. Let’s arrange to meet accidentally at Trader Joes when we both reach for the last boxed water
Look, even though the stigma around dating apps is mostly gone, it’s still not a thrilling “meet cute” story to tell your friends, kids or grandkids. So, let’s arrange to meet “accidentally” at Trader Joes 🥺? Who could say no to this moment fit for a Hollywood rom-com?


7. I was gonna blame global warming for the heat this summer…but I guess it’s just your profile
This is just a massive compliment. What could be a bigger compliment than attributing a massive globe-spanning, civilization-threatening disaster to a single person’s choice of pouty-lips selfies and carefully-staged Southeast Asia vacay photos? Responses to this are almost universally positive. Unless your match doesn’t “believe” in global warming. In which case….yikes. Good to know.
8. Are you an open book or a rolled-up magazine?
Another clever, AI-crafted analogy that gets your match thinking more deeply. Are they open, honest and communicativate, or are they more circumspect, exclusive, and reserved? Can someone buy a subscription to them? Are they available to check out in the library? Have fun with this reading-themed prompt, and see just how erudite your match really is.


9. I'm not sure if you're really cute or just good at posing for pictures. Probably both.
In the age of digital filters, FaceTune and Photoshop, who really knows what your match *actually looks like? This opener refers to how we’re all inured to all manner of digital retouching and subtle photo manipulation, but gives credit where credit is due for the hundreds of hours most of us have to put into perfecting our perfect “angles” for online representation. Speaking of which, our dating coaches recommend you ALWAYS have a FaceTime date prior to meeting someone in person – to be sure you don’t catch any catfish.
10. We should go out sometime. Do you like chocolate and wine?
As a direct invitation, it’s hard to beat this line, because – who doesn’t like chocolate and wine? As a date offer, it’s both low-key and low-investment enough to say yes to easily, and enticing and sensuous enough to entice even the most dedicated bonbon-snacker and Netflix-binger out of their house for a couple of hours.

With Love from the AI Lab, Coach Drew & the Keys Krew 🕺🏼👩🏼💻🧑🏼🔬